This is a concept for playing drums (or any other instrument) more comfortably with a metronome or click track.
When you picture the sound of the metronome in your mind, imagine that it's being made by another musician. Don't think of it as a rigid grid. Imagine that it has an ebb and flow, and just try to play along WITH the click, try not to play TO the click.
It's also a good idea to practice with the metronome at lower volumes. This will help you learn to trust the metronome and help you keep from chasing it. Click volumes available in various studios can vary wildly. If you're used to playing with a click at a lower volume you can help to avoid panicking when you are in a pressure situation.
Another problem that I will address in a future update is playing to a click with a band. Bottom line:
EVERYONE is responsible for keeping time.
Unfortunately, this isn't often the case. In a future update, I'll outline some techniques to help you through the gig or session.